what to do?
So I have offended someone. Well at least I think that I have. But the thing is I am not sure what it is that I have done, or said to change the way this person is acting around me. Now I find myself in a tricky spot, do I say something, or offer an apology? How does one go about fixing things after offending someone, when you don't even know what it is that has offended them?
12 Comments:
Since I like to avoid confrontation and have indeed offended many people, I find it useful to send a nice Hallmark card, with a little note inside so suit the situation. Good luck though, it's a tricky spot to be in...I'm sure you'll figure something out.
if you are talking about me, you can make it up to me by treating me to a pedicure!!
oh no, that seriously is the worst. Especially if it's a girl. Girls can be so moody/emotional that you may have done nothing and she could still be mad.
I like Kadee's idea. I never know what to do, so I just feel bad for myself and hope the person gets over it. good luck!
P.S. Thanks for answering my question about X. I think I understand what you're talking about...maybe.
Lonna,
Is this person someone you are very close to or a casual friend? The reason I ask, is if it is a close friend you might just ask them out for a lunch date, then causally bring it up. IF it is a casual friend, the card may work..
Good Luck.
I love ya!
Suzy
I have had that problem too. I usually just pretend nothing is wrong and show forth a lot of love and affection, but I must say I liked kaydee's suggestion too. It is painful while it lasts, but usually it is worth the friendship to hang in there.
I say that if they are offended and you didn't mean to than it is there problem. They took something the wrong way and that it is their fault and they need to get over it. So just act like nothing is wrong. If it doesn't work out than is that really a person you want to be friends with anyway.
Christopher J Barlow
Well I hardly believe you are capable of offending someone; you are so good natured! I would hope this person understands that. But sometimes misunderstandings happen and that is hard when you don't know why. I agree with the idea of some sort of peace offering-you can't go wrong with food! It might break the ice without being too confrontational and show that you really do care. Good luck!
Just tell them to get over it!! What could you have possibly done to offend someone?
what's with all the cryptic talk on this post? You offended someone, Crystal says, "thanks for answering my questions about x"
Now I'm offended.
Well, I had completely different advice then everyone else. I have found that it is better to ask them, and soon, because then they will tell you or realize how silly they are being. Usually that clears the air immediately and you can go back to being great friends!
Gosh, why do people hold grudges and get offended so easily? It's non-productive. I've had that happen a few times and it's very hurtful and I have never resolved the issues, sadly. Sometimes people just decide that they don't want to like someone else, then give them the cold shoulder. It's terrible. Just enjoy the ones who want to be friends with you.
Sorry, Lonna. That probably wasn't much help.
I think the up front approach is best, because sometimes you find out that you didn't do anything at all, but it was something else entirely and just misunderstandings on both sides. Hope that helps. :-)
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