baby boxing
Gwen has decided that it is really funny, or maybe just a interesting game to play, to knock Harrison over while he is sitting up. I do not find this funny at all. Which leads me to our current problem, obedience.
How do you, or is it even possible, to get your two year old to do what you say? Sometimes I think that she gets it, then sometimes she acts like she can't hear a word I am saying. I know that these are all perks of the age, but I just keep wondering if it will pass.
How do you, or is it even possible, to get your two year old to do what you say? Sometimes I think that she gets it, then sometimes she acts like she can't hear a word I am saying. I know that these are all perks of the age, but I just keep wondering if it will pass.
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Good luck...pretty sure it hasn't passed for us yet, I keep hoping one day soon it will, but it seems to just be getting worse!
In my experience obedience is one of the first things to teach our children. Disobedience doesn't go away it just gets harder so is important to teach now. Set reasonable consistences for disobedience and be consistent each time and she will learn. Consistence is the key. Good luck!
I feel your frustration!! Eric delights in being disobedient. I feel he spends most of his days in time out. The child doesn't speak- he whines. Maybe one day he will use words so I can actually understand what he wants.
I was a wreck when the twins first hit this phase-totally threw me off guard. But I came across a book called The Happiest Toddler on the Block, by Harvey Karp, who is also a pediatrician. I do not agree with all of his methods for sure, but the literature he provided helped me 1-understand my toddlers better and 2-help with what Syl said, provide age-appropriate discipline and consistency ie timeouts! That and emotional support from both grandmas made life a little easier. But even still, I pull my hair out with them every day. I think you are doing a great job with Gwen, and any tips you come across I hope you send my way. Anyone who says they've got toddlers completely figured out is lying. :)
We too, like others who have posted, have hit a brick wall with Cooper. We put him in time out and he is really good for the rest of the day, but the next day we start all over. I've decided to keep punishing the same way everyday and hopefully one day he will understand cause and effect!
Oh and by the way I just want you to know that you are so great! You always take the time to leave such wonderful supportive comments! It always seems like on my worst days as a wife and a mother you leave me a sparkling comment and you help me realize that someone out there is rooting for me and I really appreciate it! You always have been a sister to me and I love that even though we are miles and miles and miles away that we can always pick up right where we left off and it's as though time has never passed.
Gwen and Harrison are amazing kids and it's not just chance that that happens. It's amazing moms and dads. Mostly moms...don't tell James. But you are amazing Lonna, you really make being a mother look easy! I often find myself trying to have the patience and energy that you do! You have opened up the world to your children with all of your little outings, and all of that will come back to you in great rewards because your kids will know how great their mom is. As for disciplining your kiddos, I tell Steve that he may act like he doesn't know what he's doing, and maybe he doesn't but we are building the fundamentals! So don't get discouraged and just be glad that Harrison isn't a wimpy little boy because it may be a while but he will get her back!
Thanks again for always being a positive light in my life, I hope all of your friends in Austin know how lucky they are to have you so close! I'm jealous!
Love, Kelly
Lonna, dad says that you are too hard on Gwen, because I still like tipping him over. On a more serious note, I agree with your other mom, consistency is the key, and it needs to happen every time, in the same way. I'm not convinced that time out is a really effective discipline but there are ways to reinforce obedience in a positive punishment type of setting at this age. Positive means adding, So you need to give her an unpleasant job even at two. But on the other hand by watching, and every time she is nice to Harrison then reward with much praise and acknowledgment for the positive behavior. If you will do this the negative behaviors will diminish and disappear.(Usually) But she is two and she is just testing the limits of your rules. If you have to write rules on a poster board and point to them each time you need to "In our house we love one another, we show it by helping etc., etc. etc.
We think you are wonderful too. Love always, mom and dad
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